All is Calm. All is Bright. Or is it?
Christmas. The holiday of joy, of laughter, peace on earth. A time for families to gather, for all the holiday treats to be created and eaten.
A time for a meal or two or three or sometimes four in a day. Wrapping gifts and unwrapping gifts, furiously writing cards and getting them to the post ( and praying Canada Post gets them to their destination on time).
The picture of the Christmas season is romantic isn’t it? We wait for it each year in eager anticipation of what is to come.
But what about when it’s raining on Christmas?
What about being strapped financially and feeling inadequate because you won’t be able to purchase gifts for each and every person?
What about those feelings of guilt that creep in as you worry that one someone might buy you a gift and you haven’t thought to (or can’t afford to) purchase one for them?
What about that feeling of sheer exhaustion as you actively search with no luck for the gift for the one who has everything?
What about feeling inadequate because you don’t have the nicest and newest outfit for the many festive gatherings?
What about the feeling that you can’t bake as well, cook as well, sing as well, purchase as much as, create as well? The list goes on.
It seems that in an effort to make a season feel and look beautiful we have set ourselves up for completely and utter failure that takes the form of feeling of inadequacy, fear, debt, and sheer exhaustion. We turn to instagram or pinterest in an effort to be inspired by simplicity, by hygge, only to feel more confused.
What I have learned in the most recent season of life is that it doesn’t matter how much money you spend or how elaborate your plan is. That we are able to be more creative and offer a more welcome space when we stop spending beyond our means and stop staring at our devices for the way things are “supposed to look.” is really quite possible.
We are challenged to be more creative and intentional with our time and resources when we choose to spend within our means.
How can you make that choice this season? What can you give up? Think back to the things that you remember most from seasons past? Was it all the gifts or was it a holiday meal with family and friends that was most memorable? Was it the hours spent rushing around to find gifts and stocking stuffers or was it the day you and your friends went to cut down your Christmas tree, drank apple cider and listened to holiday tunes all the way home.
Choose to spend time in the simplest way this season with the one (s) you love.
Give up the things you will likely forget after a month or two.
Always have a bottle of great wine on hand and snacks in the freezer for the arrival of an unexpected guest or two.
Grow accustomed to showing up and having people just show up.
Forget about making everything look perfect and attaining the impossible.